The Parenting Chaos

Many parents think that they are wonderful parents until the child becomes problematic. Still, they think they have done a fantastic job, but the kid made things worse.

I have seen thousands of parents in my career and interacted with them closely. Whether you agree with me or not, I would say a successful parent is the one who raises a child who is self-reliant, responsible, level-headed and accountable. Most of today's parents are afraid of their children. Why parents, you fear your kids? Why are you helpless when they don't amount to anything?

When you build wealth and assets but not your child's character, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child religiously bound but not spiritually awakened, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child highest in academics but low in life skills, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child acquire money, brand and power but not empathy, love and care, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child to enjoy your sweat and not make him/her sweat for own life, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child seek all the pleasure but not happiness and contentment, you are a failed parent.
When you push your child only to win but not handle failure, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child a sheep who only obeys but not a confident person who makes sensible arguments, you are a failed parent.
When you make your child grow and develop as he/she wishes but not given limits and directions, you are a failed parent.
When you give your child primary importance in life but not treat him/her as a part of the whole family, you are a failed parent.
When you sacrifice your personal space for your child but not made him/her accountable for return on investment, you are a failed parent.
I can list endlessly, as I hear from at least one parent with a troubled teen or young person every week.

Do not cry when your child becomes teens; raise them well when they are kids.
Do not give them pleasure, instead of the joy of achieving goals.
Do not give them the shadow of your status; instead, make them build their own.
Do not only give; learn to take returns for your giving.
Do not hesitate to ask for accountability
Do not do things for them; instead, coach them to be independent in life.
Do not give them material possessions; instead, all the resources to build their life.

Make them responsible for their own life and the life of others who are connected with them. Let them have determination, commitment, and dedication towards their life goals and do strong actions in realising their dreams.

You can only be called a successful parent only when your child is independent in achieving credibility in all spheres of life.